I have a friend, who lives in a big glass house, always has nice cars, couple kids, and a dog husband, we’ll refer to as Grover. They act as if they’re living life in the fab lane. Now to the outside world, they seem to have it all together, but it’s not the same being on the outside looking in, you don’t get the full picture.
Grover humps everything that moves, well so I’ve been told. I’ve been told this by various sources and I’m inclined to believe them. I don’t want to give Grove a reason for his behavior, but I can’t help but wonder if she didn’t bring this on herself. She doesn’t have to work, Grove prefers when she does not. He provides for her and takes care of home, financially anyway. She stays at home and well, I don’t see her doing much. I’ve spent a couple days there and noticed the routine. She brings the kids to school, comes back home, doesn’t do much, picks up the kids from school, doesn’t do much, and that’s the routine. Grove comes home, has to take out the meat to cook, season it, and yep, he has to cook it too.
I’m not completely old fashioned glazed donut from Tim Hortons, yes I’m hungry, nor am I too much of the modern woman, I sit happily in the middle. My philosophy is simple. If I’m home, the house is clean, the laundry gets laundered, the clothes are ironed, and the meals are cooked. Easier said than done? No it’s not all that complicated. If a man is taking care of you like he promised to do, why can’t you take care of home? I don’t excuse his cheating ass ways, but it doesn’t help that he isn’t finding the woman in you he thought he married.
I don’t see a problem with breaking free of the gender roles, societal expectations, norms, and cultural patterns, but some things are just common sense. I expect that if I’m working and my man is working, if he gets home before me, he better have started dinner and not expect that to be my role. I expect him to know how to iron and do his own laundry, if I’m out of town or I just don’t feel like doing it, he ought to be able to do it himself. But if I’m not working and have all the time in the world, I will make it my responsibility to get this stuff done.
This isn’t the only couple I’ve seen who’ve had problems due to women who just sit home and can’t pick up a vacuum. I’ve seen filthy homes, smelly garbage, dirty kids, etc. I’m sorry, but sometimes us women need to get over ourselves and do what we need to do. At times I think we’re lucky we are born North American women. We would not last a day in other cultures. Cultures where women are carrying two, three kids on their backs, gathering food, planting food, sewing, cooking, cleaning, and have no one to bitch complain to about it.
Am I wrong in thinking she is partially to blame for what is happening to her? Did she bring it on herself, by not taking care of home? Should a man have to come home and cook his own meals, take out the trash, and do his own laundry if his woman’s not working?