Don’t worry, I’m not about to start a sermon. I met a woman of about 30 who has a little baby girl, she’s two months old. She is absolutely precious and you if you’re anything like me you’ll love her instantly. So the mother met the father God knows where and have been kicking it for a few years. When she got pregnant he told her to rid herself of it. I’m not sure what she told him or what happened because she’s not telling the whole truth, but she obviously kept the baby. I believe she disappeared for awhile and came back with the baby. Well now he’s not helping her, he shows up sometimes to help her, but for the most part she’s on her own. I don’t know if she kept the baby to hold on to him or if it was against her values to have an abortion. When I look at that little girl, I can’t imagine her not being born. She’s precious.
“Why is it the chick you can’t stand that chooses to keep the baby, and why she had to be the one you chose to nut in?” -Twitter User
My family and I have been filling in as a family for this baby. I have her Monday-Friday, sometimes until 10:30 at night because her mother has to work late. She can’t afford to find a better job because she’s not even in the country straight. She hid the pregnancy from her family that sponsored her here, she brought the baby to her family’s house and told them she’s the nanny for a couple. Yeah, I know, it’s deep as all hell. I don’t know if because the father is Black she cannot tell them or what’s the real story behind it. Her English is poor, but I think she’s not telling the whole truth.
I feel sorry for her, she wants her baby, but at the same time she asked about adoption and foster care. She can’t do it alone. My mother and I, God help us and our hearts and compassion. We feel the need to step up and help this woman. She asked my mom if we want the baby! Then she burst into tears and left. We have promised to help her until December. Free of charge. So basically I’m like a new mom. Neglecting my Anthropology school work to care for a baby all day.
I know the father told her he did not want a child and she deceived him by not letting him know she didn’t believe in abortion. I wonder what kind of man once he looked into the eyes of his baby girl could walk away and not check on her for weeks at a time. How could he know this woman who hardly speaks English, and has to work whatever hours she’s given, has to pick up the baby and take the bus at late night hours. Even my eighteen year old brother has been driving this woman home at night because he can’t stand to see her out that late with a carseat she has to carry to the bus stop. How does an eighteen year old boy have more heart, courage, and love for a baby that not his?
At the same time, I can understand why this man is upset, he did warn her, did he not? He has another child and probably takes care of that one, but not this one? He shows up sometimes to pick them up, well twice so far, since we’ve known her. He only showed up because my mum, lmao, my mum is just like me. I heard her saying to him in her Jamaican accent, “Yuh think she made this baby by herself? Yuh had a good time making this baby didn’t you? Unu wutless, wutless!” For anyone who doesn’t speak Patois, wutless = worthless, she told him he’s worthless! My mum don’t play! Lmao. Shamed him into showing up.
We have to know who we are sleeping with. When it comes to sex, anything can happen. The only sure fire way of avoiding pregnancy is abstinence. You have to know that if you’re sleeping with someone it’s a decent human being, well that’s my motto. I have to know that if I end up pregnant, chances are he’ll stick around. I will role scenarios after awhile because I have to know. No we cannot 100% know someone and take their word for it, but people lead by example. You can for the most part tell what kind of man you’re dealing with. If he’s already a deadbeat dad, chances are he’ll do the same thing to you. DUH!
What’s your take? Should she have had the abortion? Did she bring this on herself? My readers are mostly female, if you were a man, would you shirk your responsibilities, I mean you did tell her you did not want another child? Should she pack up and head back to her homeland, her family has a business there?